(61) Has God a Plan?

The answers to question whether He really has a plan, or what the purpose in our life is, or whether there is life after death, are not unimportant. They determine in a large extent the processing of, and the way we process our mourning after the loss of a dear one.

Sometime ago I came across a quote from a movie: “God has a plan, but I do not always agree with that.”

Unfortunately I do not remember from which movie the quote is. Please, provide me with its details when you do know. It would give me the opportunity to make a proper reference to the movie in this blog.

Personally, I would not want to be limited to one single religion in particular and therefor replace in the word “God” or “The Almighty” in this blog by “He” or “Him.” In this way I hope to embrace all religions and do them justice.

Whether we believe, or maybe even know, there is life after death, we always remain with questions like “why are we here,” or “what is our destiny in this life and in this universe?” And what about those people who assume that after our death… there is no life, nothing at all… what is in their opinion the purpose in life… why do they do the things they do?

The answers to question whether He really has a plan, or what the purpose in our life is, or whether there is life after death, are not unimportant. They determine in a large extent the processing of, and the way we process our mourning after the loss of a dear one.

What is that purpose or objective in our life? Personally I have an opinion about that, but since every person is unique I assume that everybody’s objective in life is also unique. Moreover, I have found that the view I have about myself does not always match with the view somebody else has about me. That happened to me e.g. shortly after my open heart operations. Resting was a necessary thing for me to do. What made it distinctive though, was that my resting was not so much related to the recovery of my body, but it was related to something else completely. It felt like a coming home… but where and why… I had no idea. Most people who know me well see the difference, but not me! When other people have a different view about you than you experience yourself… or perhaps you can feel, but do not understand or can put into words… then how would you to be able to formulate your purpose in life anyway.

In my opinion a quote from the movie “The 47 Ronin” starts to provide some insight. It goes like this: “My father told me, this world is only a preparation to the next world. All we can ask for is that when leaving we have been loved.” From the quote you could deduce that in addition to a life after death the central theme in our life is love.

Would it be that simple? If true then in our world we all have a lot to learn because many people are killed for reasons like ideas, opinions, money, religion, culture or power. Indeed, we have a lot to learn!

A quote from the movie “Winter’s Tale” is going a step further. “When true love is lost, life can bleed of all meaning. We are left blank. But the possibility of destiny remains. What we are meant for may yet be discovered. And once in a very long while, that journey to find our destiny may defeat even time itself.” Also this quote could infer that love is a central theme in our lives. But there is more. Although that “more” is not always clear in our lives.

Love is a central theme in our lives; as is in mine. And yes, my true love has gone on her journey to the next world… and me… I stayed behind… “empty.” Despite my loss I am “traveling” again to find my destiny in life. Where that will be is not yet really clear to me. But one thing I know for sure… the destination will completely amaze me and will exceed my expectations.

What is that purpose in my life? Although still vague, I think I am starting to see and maybe beginning to understand the purpose in my life. I also expect that everybody else could see and understand the purpose of their lives. You could do this by imagining what has happened over a prolonged period of time in your surroundings and to you. What has changed for you and with you? How decisive were those changes on you and your way of life? Those changes do not need to be very impressive at all; most of the time it happens in a very subtle way. However, when you monitor those changes over a long period of time some changes will stand out… then you’ll see and understand.

On such moments you may ask yourself the question, just as I did: “Would he have a plan nonetheless?”

Author: Hans Fransen

Founder of the Mourn & Grief Foundation

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